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Tuesday, 9 June 2015

Shameless Self Love Post

"Self love is the source of all our other loves."
Pierre Corneille

I think self love is one of the most important and probably one of the most difficult things to achieve in life. So many people rely on validation from others to be happy with themselves and in themselves because we're constantly made to think that others know better. Magazines know better. Hollywood knows better. Men know better for women. Women know better for men. Basically everyone knows better than ourselves. Sometimes even when we do meet whatever standards someone else has set we still can't quite believe it because we've made our own standards impossible to meet. We'll never be beautiful enough. Kind enough. Funny enough. No matter how many 'good' qualities we have the 'flaw' will always be what's glaringly obvious to our own eyes.

However, when someone does seem to own who they are. To show self love in whatever way makes them feel good we see the bitterness in others coming out. We call them sluts. Narcissists. Attention whores. We roll our eyes at their abundance of selfies. We start picking them apart to try and make ourselves feel better for not having their level of confidence. We never stop to think perhaps they've struggled to get there just like us. That we're only trying to bring them down to our level of self worth and love because we find it too difficult to get to theirs.

I too used to dwell on my imperfections and my insecurities. I compared myself to others and in my comparisons I always fell short. No matter how happy I was with my eyes, my lips or my hair, it would be my teeth, my curved shoulders or my string bean arms that I would focus on. But somewhere along the way I stopped focusing on those things. I'm not really sure at what point it was or why but I guess I had an epiphany of sorts. I came to the realisation that I only get one me. What a waste it is to spend this one life I have focusing on the negative? Life is tough enough without giving yourself a harder time. And so the seed of self love was planted and now it's in full bloom.

At first I used to debate whether or not it was too soon to put up another selfie on Instagram. Wonder what people would think about my obvious posing. Even starting a blog took confidence. The confidence to say "I have things to say and you may or may not be interested but I am going to say them all the same." I knew my new confidence made me a target for other people's negativity and at first I didn't want to indulge them. I also didn't want to put that confidence in jeopardy. But as it took root as a stable part of my being I stopped caring so much. When someone told me I was pretty I didn't contradict them. I said "Oh I know." I stopped caring I was putting up too many selfies or what people would think when I was overly posing. I decided just to own who I am and have fun with it.

Don't get me wrong. I still have what I consider flaws but I know beating myself up over them isn't going to make them go away. I also know that whatever superficial flaws I have I have so many other things that I like about myself. There's more to life and to me than nice teeth or even a straight spine.

So yeah, I have an ulterior motive behind this whole self love post. This is just my sneaky, long winded way to justify posting a bunch of photos I took yesterday after having some fun with make up! Aha. And why the hell not? I felt good. I thought I looked good. And I want to be able to look back on it. Yesterday the beauty to the left arrived. I ordered it last week from a store called 8th Sin Creations on Etsy. It has some really lovely stuff and I really recommend checking it out! When it arrived I decided to have some fun with make up and try on some fake eyelashes I bought last week. I was really happy with the overall result and felt really good. I even got the eyelashes perfect even though it was kind of my first time! So naturally I snapped an abundance of photos. Photos that I wanted to share on my blog. So here they are!

Then Effy came up because she wanted in on the selfie action.

I was channelling my inner drag queen and feeling my Violet Chachki, Miss Fame, Adore Delano fantasy! I plan to get even bigger lashes and I'd also like to improve my lipstick game. It's really letting me down, I feel. 

So basically, in short, the message of this this post is: Love yourselves in whatever way makes you feel best. Even if that's by putting on a shit ton of make up and taking an abundance of overly posey photos.  


  1. This is an amazing post!
    You're so right self love & confidence can take a long time to come but it is really important to learn too love and be happy within yourself! It's funny because people will judge you no matter what, if you don't take pics 'it's ohh why don't you like your picture taken? that's abit strange' but if like me you take constant selfies it's 'ohh god she loves herself' I think you do get too a point though were you just think 'stuff em, i'll do what I want!'
    Your make up looks perfect & you're stunning girly! <3 x

    1. Thank you! :)
      Exactly. So you might as well just make yourself happy. And really, you're doing no harm anyway. So why not?
      Thank you! It was fun to play around with. Lol. xo

  2. No problem :)
    Exactly I've realised that you can't please everyone so you should just be yourself and happy!

    1. That's exactly what I think. So long as you're not hurting anyone else. :) xo

  3. You look awesome. Selfies are the best and great for self love
    Beth x
    Mermaid in Disguise

    1. Thank you! :D I agree! I never feel as good as when I take a good selfie. LOL. xo

  4. Wow! You totally brighten my day with this post and you really are so beautiful honey xx

    1. Awh, thank you! That's such a compliment. :) xo


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